OK, yeah, so I fall in again. Give up and surely you will too. Don't try, say the effort is not worth making, start planning for alternate eventualities and this will occur. Work on yourself, within yourself, with yourself, concentrate on the source and the solution and the other shall find you. Progress cannot be lost, but you can wish you only had this to do. Get disillusioned enough and the illusions shall take flesh. Give up hope and hope will take flight. Sink into the formlessness and another future will take form. I gave up on love so it has found me again.